Freedom and Forgiveness

So for the last two months in The Safe Haven, we have been talking about forgiveness and freedom. As we all know, forgiving someone who has deeply hurt or betrayed us is not easy. The deep feelings of pain and anguish can really cause our hearts to become hardened, if we let it. When we choose to forgive, it’s not about making whatever they did to us be okay. Because it wasn’t ok and will never be. But through the hurt of whatever they did, we can choose to extend understanding and grace, moving forward in love, compassion, and empathy. And getting to that place is a process, which is why we need to allow time for grieving and healing.

For someone to do something to us that hurt us so bad where we need to forgive them in the first place, means we had deep love and care in our hearts. So when we choose to forgive, we honor ourselves by using that same love for ourselves - also understanding that what they did is more about them and less about us. In that case, forgiving them allows us to be free, and isn’t that one of the things what we all want anyway?